Stagehand: A Backstage Pass to my Life Stories

Stagehand: A Backstage Pass to My Life Stories is a gripping memoir that chronicles the life and experiences of David H. Aretsky, a dedicated backstage technician who has worked in the entertainment industry for over four decades. Through a collection of anecdotes and reflections, Aretsky takes readers on a journey filled with humor, heartbreak, and personal growth. The narrative is framed around significant experiences, notably his emotional struggles following the end of a long-term relationship with “the Ex,” who is referred to throughout the book. While reminiscing about his time working with various famous personalities—from rock stars to Broadway icons—Aretsky weaves the threads of his professional and personal life, exploring themes of love, loss, grit, and the idea of home.  

The memoir begins with Aretsky’s chaotic yet humorous experiences working at an adult film awards show and shifts to his deep reflections after the breakup with his longtime girlfriend, the Ex. He recounts his life as a stagehand, detailing his encounters with well-known musicians and actors and the many bizarre situations he found himself in while working in various venues. As the narrative unfolds, Aretsky confronts the emotional fallout of his breakup, detailing his struggles with loneliness and heartbreak while navigating the challenges of his professional world. Despite the pain of losing the Ex, he finds solace in his friendships and other connections, ultimately leading to moments of self-realization and the quest for a new direction in his life.  

Readers are introduced to an eclectic cast of intriguing characters in this memoir. David is a heartfelt and relatable person who embodies the journey of an everyman trying to find his place in the world. He is genuinely flawed and likable, and this trait shines through his battles with heartbreak. The Ex is a significant figure in David's life; her departure catalyzes much of the memoir. While not given a personal name, her presence is felt throughout the narrative, significantly impacting Aretsky’s emotional journey. Jack is Aretsky’s long-time friend and roommate, representing friendship's stability and brotherhood. His unwavering support and connection with Aretsky provide a comedic counterbalance to the heartbreak, illustrating the importance of camaraderie in challenging times. Stagehand: A Backstage Pass to My Life Stories is filled with emotionally rich scenes and quirky moments and infused with humor that keeps readers looking forward to the next scene. The rawness in the author’s writing will captivate readers as they explore his inner world.